Stephanie Ericsson portrayed the different types of lies we make. She provided great examples of these lies, some we probably didn’t even know were considered lies. No matter what kind of lies they are, they all had common meanings; false statement or action to deceive, or withholding truth.
Omission is one of my most frequently used types of lie. This is when most truth is spoken but certain main facts are left out that can totally change the way we view or look at the story. Such facts can make a big difference in a situation and affect a person’s life or the way they live. Lies like these are to prevent hurt feelings; the way we like to look at it, “what they don’t know won’t hurt them”. It is true, “The cruelest lies are often told in silence”. Omission can be easily used in a combination of other lies all together.
I can recall a time when my husband and I made some financial arrangements. As usual I’m the one who’s in charge of making sure all bills were taken care of. When he asked me if the bills were paid or any that remained unpaid, I assured him that it was ALL paid. I had failed to mention to him that there was also a major bill due on my behalf. I didn’t want him to know about it because it would be a great deal of stress on the both of us, and I thought I can take care of it without him knowing. It was important that this bill was to be paid immediately; I withdrew about nine hundred dollars out of our joint account. Hoping to replace the funds without my husband finding out failed. I procrastinated, and he had the time to check up on the balance. He was not happy at all and I do not blame him. The argument lasted all night, no sleep, just a stream of guilt. That was my consequence. I thought maybe if I told him everything before, he may have been more supportive about it.
It can be difficult to get through a day without hiding some truths. We can ask ourselves, “Why do we lie?” Reasons behind this are usually because we don’t want to face consequences so we tend to avoid speaking the truth. We all lie in our own little ways to exaggerate, spare feelings, and avoid confrontations. This habit becomes so natural to us; we forget it’s even considered a lie and probably the reason why we still think ourselves as honest people. It’s like a disease and will always be a part of us no matter what shape, size, age, or gender. Lies are within us all.
I have done the same thing that you did to my fiance. I told him that all of my bills were paid. I was hoping to get one of the bills paid before it came back in the mail. Unfortunately I wasn't able to. He got kind of mad when he realized that the bill was now up to $115. We really do lie a lot, and sometimes we do not even realize that we are lieing.
ReplyDeleteHello Susie,
ReplyDeleteI have to agree, we all lie in one form or another. Are we all equal in the extent of our lies? I don't think so. Omission is the most common and I think this happens without even realizing that we have lied. Out and out lies are more intention and devious in my opinion. There are those who lie to protect themselves from consquences, like you said. And there are those who hold back to spare other's feeling.
Mandy Ericson
Any form of lying even the omission type can be just as damaging to a person as any kind of lie. Omission lies include failures to correct pre-existing misconceptions such as deliberately leaving out factual information that drastically changes the meaning of what is said.
ReplyDeleteI agree this is such an easy one to get caught up in because it seems easier than a mistake you face....Thank you for this reading!!
Daye
You right any time we lie it is many to stop or avoid confrontation. The only thing that we really need to worry about is this just prolonging the problem to a later date. I am pretty honest person and with my friends they expect it but even now and then they wish I could just tell them what they want to hear. Sometimes a little discomfort can pay off in the long run.
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