Why does his mother regret allowing him to attend boarding school?
Lee's mother regretted letting him go to boarding school because she thought that they could have had more time to connect if he stayed close to home. She felt that it was a "big mistake". Lee asked her why she let him go, and she replied that she didn't know that she was going to die. She also felt that it was better for him that he wasn't around because he may not have liked being in her presence for all the time he could have been home. He suggested that he may have liked her even more, but she disagreed. The years he was away at boarding school was more precious to her as her illness progressed.
If Lee stayed home instead of going to boarding school, I think he would have been able to bond with his sick mother. He could have been home to care for her, learn the things she wanted him to learn, like cooking the way she does. Most of the conversations happened in the kitchen and cooking was a big part of the narration, so cooking must have been a big thing for them.
If Lee stayed home instead of going to boarding school, I think he would have been able to bond with his sick mother. He could have been home to care for her, learn the things she wanted him to learn, like cooking the way she does. Most of the conversations happened in the kitchen and cooking was a big part of the narration, so cooking must have been a big thing for them.
In my family, we cook a lot especially during gatherings. A lot of conversations happen during that time as well. I don’t know why when we’re cooking or eating we make most of our conversations, discussions, and decisions during the time we are in the kitchen or dining area. I guess it somehow brings us together and put aside unimportant things and discuss certain matters as a family.
Hi Susie,
ReplyDeleteYour post has me thinking about how important it is to practice and act out culture and family. Part of the reason food is important to this family is because it's a direct link to their heritage; they practice their culture through preparing and eating traditional food. The time also enables them to act like a family. More than being a family in word, they are a family through their actions, and eating together may seem trivial, but it's a daily ritual families practice.
Thanks for your insights.
Take care,
Lauren
Lauren,
ReplyDeleteI totally agree how you described it as a daily ritual family practice. I think it's the best part of my day. It' reminds me of a movie called "Soul Food" all the drama, the jokes, and the laughs all happens in the kitchen as we're cooking. Thanks for your response.
Take care,
Susie
susie,
ReplyDeleteI think that you got the same vibe from the story i did too. That she did regret sending him to school. their time together was short and so she spent all of her time she had left with him. Forcing herself to eat even when it was so hard.Thanks for the feedback!
samantha
Hello Susie,
ReplyDeleteA mother's love for her child is one of the strongest that one can have. Of course a mother would regret any missed time she could have had with her child. My son is in high school and every summer attends a college program where he is gone for 6 weeks. I feel I miss opportunities of spending that time with him but at the same time I feel that it is vital and beneficial for him to attend. It is important for his future. Life is always a balancing act.
Mandy Ericson
(: Hi Susie,
ReplyDeleteI agree that if he were to stay home from boarding school he would definitely would have been able to take care of her. I think that going off to school gave him more of a motivation to cook all the things he did for her. It showed her that he would be able to keep the family together when she was gone.